Is Facebook ruining your life?
Well it's holiday time again across the USA and across the world. As we get together with family and old friends, it's time to measure how our life has been going this past year. We're about to move into a new year, and I'm sure everyone reading this has goals and aspirations for 2012.
Maybe you have some goals that you feel pretty strongly about. Maybe you're trying to nail 10 new chicks in 2012. Maybe your trying to find the girl of your dreams. Maybe you're hoping to make $100,000 this year, or graduate with a college degree.
Take a moment to think of your most important goal in 2012 before reading the rest of this newsletter.
As you know, I am here to help you reach all of your dreams, be they dating-related or not. Me and the entire coaching staff at BradP.com want you to succeed at everything you try. That's the entire purpose of our company and we spend all day every day trying everything we can to make you successful.
I'd like to bring to your attention some new developments that I've been noticing. There are things that might be directly standing in your way...and you might not even see it.
As the technology surrounding us all becomes more intense and pervasive, people are showing a tendency to spend more and more of their time being REACTIVE instead of being PROACTIVE.
Let me define these terms a bit more for you, so you can see what I mean by this.
Being reactive is when there are things going on around, and you spend your time reacting to these things. You're not really creating any force in the world. You're not creating your own action, putting out your own ideas, or doing anything to get others to react. You're just being a part of the general reaction that is going on around the proactive people who are creating the action.
Being proactive is when you take action towards achieving your goals.
Let me give you some examples to illustrate how this relates to your daily routine.
Let's say you have a goal. Let's say you want to create your own sex toy company and make millions while simultaneously increasing the sexual pleasure in the world by ten fold.
Now that you have a goal, each passing second of each day takes you either closer or further away from that goal.
Proactive actions would include:
creating ideas for more stimulating toys
creating ways to persuade more people to use toys
creating ideas to make the use of toys more socially acceptable and normalized
studying how the public's opinions on sexual devices has changed and evolved over the past 300 years
Reactive actions would include:
Reading a wall post on facebook about how your uncle lost his phone, then commenting “Wow that sucks!” while experiencing empathy and sorrow for your uncle's inconvenience.
Reading Alec Balwin's twitter about being kicked off an airplane for playing WordsWithFriends.
Checking CNN to see if the new North Korean Leader has fully assumed power yet, or has only partially taken power.
These reactive actions are a waste of your time. They only take you further away from your goals. But since most people spend their time doing these things, I'd will play along and we can try to decipher if these actions have any bearing at all on your life.
Your uncle lost his phone. You see him twice a year. If he really needs to find you, he will. If you really need to contact him, he will probably have a new phone by then. Your wall post does nothing to solve his problem. You don't need to know the mundane details of 250 people who you rarely talk to. Facebook has you convinced that everyone's mundane lives are important. They aren't. It's mostly a bunch of people whining and complaining, mixed with an occasional piece of entertaining satire or a funny picture from Caturday.com.
The new North Korean leader won't become important to you unless there's a nuclear bomb exploding in your neighborhood. If that becomes imminent, it's likely someone will let you know. Until then, the media will continue to quibble over details in an effort to fill the TV schedule. There's about 3 minutes of news per day that's relevant to you. In the age of 24 hour news networks, we are all being flooded with de-contextualized tidbits of minutia and paranoia. The worst part is, we've been conditioned to accept it!
Alec Balwin's twitter....well I think at this point you can see how pointless that is.
By the way, Caturday.com was your test. If you went to caturday.com to check what it is, YOU LOSE! You need to get some more disciplined and stop being easily distracted.
Now I want you to go back to thinking about your #1 most important goal.
Are you dying to get out there and nail ten new girls this year? Have you ever felt that you just don't have the time to put in 5 hours in the field every week? In the 30/30 Club, all we ask is 5 hours a week in the field. I think it's something that anyone can do.
But what if you're really swamped, and you've tried to put in 5 hours in the field, but been unable to do it?
Imagine if you could go back in time and take 5 hours of time which you spend being reactive on Facebook, and re-assign those hours into field time.
Imaging if you could reprogram your entire 2011 so you spent 5 hours in the field every week, instead of 5 hours on Facebook every week. How different would your skillset be right now?
That would be 260 hours in the field. You would probably have 1000 approaches under your belt in that time. How much better would your game be if you had an extra 1000 approaches behind you in 2011?
I can tell you, your AA would be gone. Your results would skyrocket. You would probably be standing in your living room with your balls in some chicks mouth right now, instead of sitting at your laptop reading this newsletter.
And THAT is the difference between people who succeed and people who talk about goals but never reach them.
Successful people are proactive.
Losers are reactive.
Losers sit on Facebook all day and write wall posts like “Wow that sucks!”
Losers sit around reacting to the world around them, but never doing anything proactive enough to change their reality and make their dreams come true.
The choice is yours.