Science proves I'm not crazy (part 2)

Of course women intuitively know that a lot of people are subject to the snap judgments of the halo effect. They have ways of using this to gain power over men that they would not be able to gain if he knew the truth about her having some positive qualities and some negative qualities. Women always put their “best foot forward” when it comes to dating, because if she can get a man emotionally invested early, she can get him to help clean up some of her other messes later.

Guys who haven't had sex with many women overestimate the sexual prowess of attractive women, and the value of having these women in their lives.

I can't stress enough that you must evaluate a woman in a holistic way before you decide to put a lot of effort into her.

You might not know exactly what you're looking for in a woman yet, but start with 3 simple areas to pay attention to.

1. Social value

This area I'm calling social value is basically a combination of physical attractiveness, physical presentation, and social context.

If a girl is attractive and well dressed, this is something most guys will notice right away. For many guys, this is really the only thing they look at. They see a hot chick with tits and ass nicely displayed, and that's it, they get all GOO-GOO GA GA.

There's a lot of women out there who are great at projecting social value. They know how to look their best and surround themselves with people that make them seem super cool. They know that most guys (especially inexperienced guys) are suckers for this, and in many cases, men will not even look at these next 2 areas.

2. Sexual value
A woman may be smoking hot, but that doesn't necessarily mean she'll be good in the sack. She may have crazy hang ups or lots of baggage. Or she may rock your world, you just never know. In my experience, I haven't found that there's all that much correlation between women being ultra hot and being skilled in the bedroom. There are 9s and 10s out there who are sex ninjas, and there are others who are appallingly stiff.

If you're new at this and the Halo Effect is having it's way with your brain, there's a tendency to think all hot chicks will give you a great sexual experience. I've even heard some guys say “Well she's really hot, so she must have been fucked by guys who are really good in bed, and think I might suffer by comparison.” This can make you feel even more intimidated in the situation, and that's not a good feeling.

Also, I should note that this “suffering by comparison” idea is useless speculation.

It's important to pay attention to a woman's sexual value when you're getting to know her.

Signs of high sexual value include:
Comfortable with kino.
Comfortable with her body.
Highly responsive to many different kinds of touching.

Signs of low sexual value include:
Withdraws or gets stiff when you touch her.
Mentions that she rarely has sex, hasn't had sex in months, etc.
Seems to be a man-hater type.
Unresolved history of sexual abuse or rape.

3. Lifestyle value
This one is simple. If you spend time around this woman, will your life be better or worse than if you never met her. I'm not just talking about relationships, I'm also talking about a ONS or casual fuck-buddy arrangement. There's some chicks that are such a drag, that it's really not even worth putting in 3 hours to bang them. But if you've never been with many women before, you wouldn't be able to recognize this.

It also comes into play if you're getting into a relationship with an attractive women. There are women out there who are ultra hot, but if you dated them for a few months, you'd be sucked into a black hole of disasters and problems. Some of these chicks are drug addicts, drama queens, needy, or super disorganized. It's not pleasant to be around. Other hot chicks are positive, accomplished, and great to be around.

It can be hard to tell at the beginning, because sometimes the girls with low lifestyle value make it look like they have high lifestyle value.

Most guys don't look closely at lifestyle value. They just go jumping in because the chick is hot, and then later they are bummed out because life is starting to suck. Or, in a ONS situation, they just put the girl on a pedestal right away, because she's hot, and in the process they completely turn her off and ruin the seduction.

My point is that you shouldn't jump to conclusions. You should suspend judgment and be open to new information. Form a balanced, accurate, nuanced impression of women you meet. If you stay open to all the information in front of you, you can form a more accurate picture, even on the first night. Also, your game will be far, far stronger, because women can tell when you're totally sold on them, and it gets boring for them. They'd rather have a guy who they have to win over.

I know there's plenty of pickup tricks where you act like you're not totally sold yet, and she's going to have to work to win you over. While you use these techniques you may be saying your head, “Wow! I'd do anything to nail this girl!” That's not really what I'm talking about here. I'm talking about being TRULY not sold yet. It's not an act, it's reality. Of course this will be a stronger way to game than if you were just acting and using a few pickup tricks.

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