Science proves I'm not crazy (part 3)

This is part 3. If you missed part 1, check it out here: http://bradp.com/science-proves-im-not-crazy-part-1

When I think back on times when I've had same day lays and then built them into great long term fuck-buddy relationships, I remember thinking to myself “This chick is hot, I want to bang her. I'm not sure what else is up with her. She's got a few promising qualities, and a few issues. It's probably worth hitting it a few times and seeing where it goes.”

Women seem to be able to sense this vibe. It's like I'm optimistic but not totally convinced yet, but there's enough attraction between us that I can escalate to sex using the normal procedures. This attitude has worked really well for me, and has helped me land quite a few girls who you would think are out of my league looks-wise.

Guys who have never had a long term relationship underestimate the problems that women have in their lives.

During that initial meeting, when the fires of physical attraction are so hot that logical thought processes are greatly diminished, and it's easy to think that this woman could be the answer to all your prayers. Women are great on capitalizing on this and they know how to play that “angel” role. They practice it every day, and why shouldn't they. It gets them a long way in life because there's a lot of suckers out there.

There's this guy I'm helping out, he just met a super hot russian chick about 2 months ago. He thought she seemed so perfect on first glance. We find out later that she's still seeing her ex, she's in the middle of a messy divorce (at age 22), she has 9 hour drug binges in dance clubs once a week, and she's got 30-40(!) orbiters who she's running around in circles. Wow! What a train wreck.

There's other girls who are just as hot who don't have nearly as many drawbacks.

What it comes down to is that everyone you meet will have their good qualities and their problems. If you recognize this going in, it will allow you to see women as human, and relate to them on a more human level. Women respond well to that kind of thing, especially if they have been getting treated weird by people under the influence of the Halo Effect. They're probably sick of it.

Guys who have never had women as fuck-buddies see women as angels who never sleep with random guys, and never use their sexual power to do treacherous things to the men who become interested in them.

The Halo Effect can have a strange effect on a man's sexual programming. This is a complex issue since it is also influence by our social programming and instinctual programming.

Some cultural and instinctual programming tells us to look for women who have little to no sexual experience. If you buy into this, women who have had lots of sex are less valuable than virgins or inexperienced women.

So when we encounter a woman who is attractive, and we start projecting other desirable qualities onto her, we might invent a sexual history for her in our head where she is a virgin or close to it. We may then communicate this expectation to the woman inadvertently, and she may decide to play that role whether it's true or not.

The relationship that ensues is built on a platform of delusions and lies.

Even in a ONS situation, having a woman acting less experienced than she is will diminish her sexual experience and yours.

Wouldn't it be better for everyone if men were less judgmental about women's sexual histories and women were not constantly trying to prove they are not sluts? That would make the world a better place and everyone would be happier.

I help guys with this all the time in the 30/30 Club. Meet 30 women every 30 days for 12 months. Check it out here: http://bradp.com/30-30-club/