Science proves I'm not crazy (part 4)

This is part 4. If you missed part 1, check it out here: http://bradp.com/science-proves-im-not-crazy-part-1

So by now you probably get the idea of how the Halo Effect influences people who are learning pickup. Now I'd like to describe to you the process of improving at pickup and how the Halo Effect starts to lose it's power as your get better and better.

In the beginning, you might be making all the mental errors described above, but if you keep working on your game you slowly start to see the reality of the situation. Along the way, you may bang a few dozen girls. You might meet some hot chicks who are cool, some who are assholes, some normal looking girls who are awesome, and some who are lame.

You start to see that just because someone is attractive, doesn't necessarily mean you can draw any other conclusions about their character.

This can be followed by a period of being disillusioned. You were hoping that by studying pickup, you would meet your perfect super-model soulmate, all your problems would go away, and you would live happily ever after.

But after a few relationships, you see that is all hard work. Pickup is hard work. Having FBs is hard work. Relationships are hard work. Sometimes it's worthwhile work, and sometimes it is a drag.

Then you get to a point of acceptance. You know that you determine your own quality of life, and that while it's nice to have women in your life, it's not ultimately going to make or break you.

Then you've become grizzled, seasoned, hardened.

That's when the whole “non-reactive” thing starts to be real for you. You've seen it all. Nothing is shocking anymore. There's no girl out there who's going to turn you into a babbling puddle of delusions. Those days are gone.

If you get that far, your game will be stellar. It gets a lot easier and more enjoyable when you see women as human beings, not as symbols of your delusional hopes and dreams.

3 cheers for being disillusioned!!

I help guys with this all the time in the 30/30 Club. Meet 30 women every 30 days for 12 months. Check it out here: http://bradp.com/30-30-club/