This is what separates WINNERS from LOSERS

When diagnosing and improving your own game, there's something you should always remember when things go wrong.

When things go wrong, you shouldn't automatically assume it's your fault.

It's not your fault unless you see a pattern, and the same thing is going wrong over and over.

When things don't go well, it could have to do with outside factors. It might not be you that is the problem. It might not be your game that is the problem.

Maybe the girl is mentally screwed up. Maybe she's got problems. Maybe you are just incompatible.

That doesn't mean you are a lousy PUA or you have lousy game.

For example, if one girl tells you that your clothes suck, you should disregard her opinion. However, if 10 girls tell you that your clothes suck, then you should make a change. Sounds simple right?

This holds true not only in pickup, but in many areas of life where you want to to achieve success.

This is a principle that separates winners from losers.

Here's the story of how I learned this.

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One time I met a woman through my social circle. She seemed to be just another girl hanging around, but a female friend of mine said to me, “You should come hang out at the house with us. My friend really likes you. She already asked me to give you her number.”

So off I went.

Both of these women were successful fashion models. They had been partying all night, and I hung around and partied with them until 5am. We hung around the house and talked for hours. We played music on the stereo, sang songs, and played guitars.

I used this great technique where I give the girl a guitar and tell her to strum it with her right hand. Then I do a ll the fret work with my left hand, and she feels like she has instantly become an awesome guitar player. If you know how to play guitar even a little, you should try this technique. Women love it.

After a few hours, I managed to isolate the interested girl back at my place.

But, when I got her alone, she went completely cold. She was super mean to me. She complained about my outfit, my place, and wouldn't let me touch her at all. She'd just say “Don't touch me. I'm selective.”

She gave me nothing but negative vibes. Finally, I figured I'd get her out of my house. I brought her back to the rest of my friends. They took her home.

I said to myself “Wow I sure did creep that girl out. She went from interested to 'don't touch me' in just minutes. My game must really suck tonight.”

The next day, my friends told me “When we took that girl home, she couldn't stop talking about you. She was way into you!”

This was a shocker to me, since she seemed bitchy and disinterested the whole time.

It turns out that there were some additional factors I wasn't aware of which made this girl act cold even though she was interested.

Factor 1- she had broken up with her boyfriend the day before, and didn't want to have sex for a while.

Factor 2- she was starting a fashion line with my female friend, and was worried that if she fucked me she would look like a slut and my friend would not work with her. Yes I know this sounds strange. My female friend who was setting all of this up is a famous supermodel who has been on the cover of every major magazine. She's a pretty big deal, and the girl who liked me was paranoid about being on her bad side. Their business connection is more important than any amount of sex could ever be.

Factor 3- the 2 girls had been drinking a lot and doing cocaine. Cocaine has weird effects on people. Sometimes it makes them nervous and jumpy when they are coming down.

After my friends told me about all of this, I realized that I hadn't done any crappy game, and the problem wasn't me. The problem was HER!!! She liked me and wanted to date me, but she was too screwed up in the head to move towards that goal.
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Now back to our original lesson..... you should always remember that if things don't go well with any one girl, it's probably not your fault. Never get down on yourself. Never get negative. If you start getting negative, that will kill your progress.

Just stick with it, wait for patterns to emerge, and then make changes based on those patterns.

You can't go through life blaming yourself or blaming your game every time a girl acts weird towards you. Repeat after me,

“It's not my fault.”

“I'm not the problem, she is the problem.”

“A bad result with one girl doesn't mean anything. I'm going to wait and see how the next 9 girls respond.”

That is how a winner thinks. A winner doesn't get thrown off by one or two failures. A winner sticks with it and makes educated decisions based on real experiences.

Check out more inner game tricks in Secrets of Inner Game.

http://bradp.com/secrets-of-inner-game

Brad P.
www.BradP.com